What each SATC woman has taught me about – FRIENDSHIPS
When people hear Sex and the City, they usually think of love and relationships. Me? I immediately think of the kind of bonds only women can share. To me, the series is really a celebration of your chosen family – the friends you pick who stick by you through everything. So, I wanted to give you a peek into what each SATC woman taught me about friendship, and maybe you’ll take away some lessons too.
Samantha Jones
“We made a deal ages ago … men, babies, it doesn’t matter. We’re soulmates.” – Samantha
Support unapologetically
There are times in life when even the toughest people question themselves. That’s when friends like Samantha become irreplaceable. She supported Carrie despite the mistakes she made, showing that you should stick by your friends even when they slip up – because, in the end, it’s still them.
Celebrate your friends’ uniqueness
It’s easy to gravitate toward friends who think and act like us, but Samantha reminds us that true friendship goes beyond similarities. She loves each friend for exactly who they are. Even when Charlotte’s world couldn’t be more different from Samantha’s, she never hesitates to lift her up and cheer her on.
Miranda Hobbes
“You’re my people.” – Miranda
If you feel like your friend is making a mistake, tell them
You might think that someone is a better friend if they always agree with everything you say and do, but that’s a common misconception. I believe that when someone truly cares about you, they have a responsibility to speak up when you’re not being true to yourself. Personally, I would want my friends to do the same. Of course, this doesn’t mean trying to control them, constructive feedback is simply one of the pillars of a genuine, lasting friendship.
Do not forget your friends when you fall in love
Even when Miranda was seeing someone seriously, she always made time for her friends. When Carrie bailed on their plans – and didn’t even bother to call – because of Mr. Big, Miranda called her out immediately. That’s the lesson for me: never forget your day ones. They’ve been there through everything, and no new romance should make you forget that. Guys come and go, but your girls? You can always count on them.
Carrie Bradshaw
“No matter who broke your heart or how long it takes to heal, you’ll never get through it without your friends.” – Carrie
Be open about your feelings, even the messy ones
Carrie showed me that honesty is the backbone of friendship, even when you’re not sure how your friends will react. Sharing your insecurities and experiences is the only way they can truly understand you. And if they’re real friends, they’ll stick by you, sometimes it just takes a little time for them to get it.
Understanding your friends needs
For me, the essence of Carrie’s friendship is showing up through life’s weirdest, wildest moments. Like when Miranda had a full-blown panic over the idea of dying alone and being eaten by her cat, Carrie didn’t blink. She was right there, ready to support her friend no matter how ridiculous it seemed. Carrie taught me that real friendship means being there for the people you love, even when life gets completely bizarre.
Charlotte York
“Maybe we could be each other’s soulmates and then we can let men be these great, nice guys to have fun with.” – Charlotte
Small gestures and making memories together go a long way
Sometimes, people forget that friendships need just as much care and attention as romantic relationships. Celebrating holidays together, surprising your friends, and showing them you care can make them feel more valued and cherished than you might imagine.
Loyal through differences
Charlotte was sometimes the odd one out, with her views and priorities so different from the rest of the group. But that never stopped her from being there for her girls, focusing on what really mattered in their friendship rather than judging their choices. Their differences only made their bond stronger– sometimes the best advice comes from someone who sees your situation in a way you never could. Charlotte showed me that true friends don’t have to think alike; they just have to have your back.